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Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Feminism, Femininity, and Fucking (aka Queer Porn Suggestions)

The other day a friend of mine posted a link to a website that pretty unashamedly bashed burlesque as an art form, and the women that perform in it as silly victims of the patriarchy (http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/02/22/is-your-pout-plump-enough/). In addition to being a pretty poorly written blog entry and completely ignoring male burlesque dancers, the argument offended my sensibilities as a Queer Femme who not only has found redemption and reclamation in burlesque and other Queen-y exhibitions, but whose large community in New York City primarily revolves around radical Femme performance work and activism. I ultimately had a really kind and genuine conversation with my friend about it, but the blog post has stayed with me as a reminder of why I don’t always trust feminists in my community.

Pardon the somewhat delirium induced segue, but this IBTP blog entry got me all riled up to post about great queer porn for the Sappho readers. Without going into a rant against (primarily straight, though not always—I’ve seen plenty of femmephobic stuff all over okcupid*) feminists who rail against makeup, high-heels, and fishnets as trappings of the patriarchy, I will state that it is a rebellious act to reclaim one’s body and one’s desire from a society that is consistently bombarding you with images of how to look, act, and feel. *Especially* as queer women, who have to face societal judgments concerning our sexual desire and our gender presentation, its important to recognize that choosing to wear X or do Y is rebellious. Our choices will always be fraught with meaning—my fishnets will symbolize both queer femme ferocity and acknowledge the history of enforced feminine
presentation on female bodied people—but that does not take away their power.

You may be wondering, okay grrl, can we get to the porn already? ::hands up:: I love supporting queer porn, and why I stay away from free sites like xtube and such, is because I think its important to me to support our movement’s right to represent ourselves the way we’d like to represent ourselves. In the 1970s, lesbian feminists asked our community to shed our BDSM, butch, femme, and kinky desire. Thankfully, our communities are now reclaiming that. My three top picks for you all are:

1. Crashpadseries.com (All episodes are directed by Shine Loise Houston, an incredible artist, and feature a wide range of kinks, gender presentations, and relationship dynamics. Its hot, sexy, and creative. It is on the pricier side, but if you can indulge for a couple of months I definitely suggest you do so!)

2. Nofauxx.com (Nofauxx is a bit cheaper than Crash pad, 60 dollars for six months! Similar to Crashpad, Nofauxx features a whole spectrum of queer beauties and story lines)

3. Sugar High, Glitter City (This is actually a film. I suggest it for the less kinky, though it still packs a punch for sure! The idea is that sugar is now illegal, and all the actresses are going around fucking for treats. My favorite scene is the Butch “dealer” and his Femme servant, who go and fuck this gorgeous woman who used to be an old costumer. Yum).

Let me know what you think, or if you have any suggestions of your own? I know there is some other “lesbian” oriented porn out there that is a bit too soft for my taste, but plenty delicious in its own right.
::kisses:: Magnolia

*Okcupid.com – a free online dating service. I met my primary sweetie on the site actually, and have enjoyed many other fun dalliances with folks that I met through it as well! Less great for CT, but if you’re in NYC a lot it can help you set up playdates. xx

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