tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345649318068185717.post6271282515058171325..comments2023-05-25T04:27:03.592-04:00Comments on Sappho.Blog: Going through phasesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345649318068185717.post-76677433503113526942011-02-21T22:55:31.448-05:002011-02-21T22:55:31.448-05:00Lovin the lyrics.Lovin the lyrics.Mariananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345649318068185717.post-14703146385657348062011-02-21T22:14:48.184-05:002011-02-21T22:14:48.184-05:00I'll always be proud of those lyrics.I'll always be proud of those lyrics.sophiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08668582713530187296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345649318068185717.post-19603017357296684252011-02-19T08:40:27.473-05:002011-02-19T08:40:27.473-05:00While I agree that this type of reaction is flawed...While I agree that this type of reaction is flawed, I also understand where the perception comes from. For many that hold this belief, it may come from general ignorance; however, I think it's also supported by witnessed behavior. I know in my experience, when first coming out to my parents, I introduced it as bisexuality. And at the time, I genuinely thought that I was interested in both. Up until then, I had dated boys and felt attracted to them. It was only once I met "the girl" that everything shifted. That's not to say I hadn't experienced girl crushes or fantasies before then, but those feelings had never displaced those I had for guys. <br /><br />Now, it's been 6 years since I came out to my parents. In that time, I've dated numerous girls, and have come to the realization that I'm really not into guys. This was not something that developed quickly, or something that I was entirely confident of until being with a guy after a stint of girl relationships. My point is, it took me a good amount of time to realize who I was and what I wanted. But, on the way, I was equally confident in the feelings of bisexuality I had then. I think a lot of people "questioning" do go through a period where they may identify as bi only because they haven't had the experience to figure themselves out. This is in no way a justification of your mother's attitude or those like it, but I guess a way to reframe it. If many of that do end up being gay have a bi phase, it makes sense that a third party (who does not have any gay tendencies) would assume that is a natural way of transition. Granted, it's still totally frustrating and I empathize...but I think bisexuality is confusing for both heteros and those that do end up being gay; it's both a legitimate orientation AND a transitional period for others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345649318068185717.post-91742812110875197862011-02-18T12:06:26.739-05:002011-02-18T12:06:26.739-05:00Sinusoid, I completely agree and I feel like there...Sinusoid, I completely agree and I feel like there are way too many people who hold this same belief. I am not bi, but it still irks me every time someone (including one of my otherwise-extremely-openminded suitemates) says something to discredit bisexuality.<br /><br />How do you typically go about reacting to these people and how would you propose we non-bis go about defending/explaining the existence and validity of bisexuality? I've really never had a good way to react to these kinds of comments besides something lame like 'that's not true' and nothing else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com