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Saturday, September 24, 2011

Is she or isn't she?

So recently I've come up against something I think most of us have experienced: the dreaded uncertainty in determining the sexual orientation of a new crush. She's witty, sarcastic, liberal, confident, but ultra femme. The context of our interactions, being the classroom, doesn't help much either. I've tried to observe who her friends are, overhear any plans for the upcoming weekend, and pick up on any "vibes" that may be forthcoming. But alas, I am still left with an ambiguous reading.

This has always been a HUGE problem for me. Not because I'm completely lacking in gaydar skills, but due to the fact that I've always been attracted to very feminine women. Seeing as I'm fairly feminine myself, I don't help matters either. I usually have to let these ones go, mainly to avoid the possibility of making a move and dealing with the resulting awkwardness (if she's not) for the rest of the semester. I mean the class itself, Women, Food, and Culture, could offer a nice platform for making assumptions, but I've learned that's not a good place to start from (at all). And she's very outspoken on feminist issues, but again, that's another easily misinterpreted territory.

So, what to do? No, really, I need some advice here. How do you all proceed in these murky lesbian waters? Any and all stories are welcome!!

-A

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Not to sound like a creep, but have you tried checking her facebook? And your mutual friends? I feel like that's usually a good indicator :D

Anonymous said...

OMG MUTUAL FRIENDS IS SUCH A GOOD INDICATOR!

Aladdin said...

Thanks for the advice everyone. I have checked her facebook (why not, right?) and she had no listing. So, that's better than a definite no. And as for mutual friends... haven't noticed any yet. We'll see what happens.

Anonymous said...

No listing is definitely a good sign! Checking your mutual friends isn't always a good indicator. All or most of her friends may be straight. Mine certainly are. BUT, if you're good friends with one of her good friends, you can ask them if she's lesbian or bi.

Anonymous said...

No listing is definitely a good sign! Checking your mutual friends isn't always a good indicator. All or most of her friends may be straight. Mine certainly are. BUT, if you're good friends with one of her good friends, you can ask them if she's lesbian or bi.

Tannia J. Garcia said...

My girlfriend is bugga and "always" will be, but she will stand by me. So, just try to be friends, the best friends ever, If you really wanna try it, it just happen and make the move if you are alone ;D