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Monday, February 14, 2011

Visibility on VDay

Well hey errbody. So we all know what today is, and, love it or hate it, Valentine's Day is hard to ignore. But even more than the romance/angst/lust/despair that VDay brings to our hetero brethren/sistren, we queer folks have to deal with some extra issues.

  • If you're closeted, all the focus on romance around this time can lead to some awkward questions/comments ("So when are you getting a boyfriend?" etc etc).
  • If you're out, the ridiculous amount of heterosexuality all over the place can be suffocating.
  • If you're out and are with someone of the same sex, then being super lovey-dovey with that lucky individual carries more risks than it might for straight couples.
  • If you're bi and with someone of the opposite sex, being super lovey-dovey with that lucky individual can feel like buying into straight privelege.
  • If you're involved in a poly relationship...well that deserves a whole post of its own.

So how do you lovely queermos deal with VDay? Whether single, attached, or "It's Complicated" on Facebook, February 14th opens up a different can of worms for all of us. Share your survival strategies in the comments!

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